Archive | August 2008

A Wealth of Information

I was speaking with a family member the other day and she informed me that my 13 year old son had informed her 10 year old son that a woman has her cycle every 28-29 days. WOW!!! I had no idea that he had this information in his head or even sharing it with other children. He and I talk about every and anything under the son that his little head can come up with because I feel that if he can ask the question then there must be some things he needs to know. Please understand I keep answers to a minimum because I have learned you answer their questions but don’t give more detail than they ask or may be ready for.

Well due to this I have informed my child that he shouldn’t discuss the things we talk about with all children because some parents just aren’t ready to have certain discussions with their children. Just as she brought it up to me she also stated for him not to share that information with her son because they don’t talk about that yet.

I did find out that my son was talking with some of his older relatives and the 10 year old just happen to be near enough to hear the conversation. I find it all very interesting because it goes to show how our kids pick things up from everywhere. If it’s not other family members and friends it’s the kids at school or the television. We have to be prepared to make sure we give them the correct information and help them research what we don’t know. Knowledge is power!!

Home Schooling

Ok I am not the most informed about this topic so I have a few questions. Please feel free to enlighten me. I do know some benefits to being home schooled. You know youre childs learning ability a little better than the average teacher and the child gets the one on one attention that may not be so much available in the school system. Your child doesn’t have to deal with peer pressure so much nor bullies. You can move ahead in certain subjects wher your child seems to excel and still focus on the areas they need more attention in. That’s all good but I see a negative side to this as well.

This is my opinion so please feel free to give your thoughts or prove mine wrong. Your child misses out on the interaction with other children and the ability to learn how to deal with different personalities. Life doesn’t teach them at their own speed and level so I believe they need to learn to cope with what life dishes us and we as parents at home take the time out to explain, research and direct them. If they are having problems in one area or another we at home make the time to work with them or we get them extra help of some sort.

I do know a parent that teaches her child at home and sends him to preschool/kindergarden part-time and I see the benefit in that because she teaches him way more than he would be learning in school but yet he still attends school with other children so he gets to socialize. I love it! I’m not totally against it or completely for it. I don’t know, I guess I just don’t have a full understanding of it.

Spouse vs Family

We take our time and choose our souse and we love them so much that we’d give our own life for them. We do everything in our power to keep them happy because after all we share our life with this person and according to the Bible when we married the two became one.

Now on the other hand we have our family. We didn’t choose these people but we’ve spent our lives with them and for the most part they know us better than anyone and we would surely die for them or at least go to battle. They’ve been there for us through thick and thin and even when we don’t like them no outsider can stir up drama because we will be there!

So what happens when you have to choose between your spouse and your family???

Yes this can happen. Some instances: Your spouse and one of your family members has a falling out, You spend a lot of time with your family and your spouse either doesn’t want to or tells you that you need to stop. A big one is what if you’re very close to your parent(s) and one or both of them don’t like your spouse. Other things can cause this also like religion differences or ethnicity or even your political preference.

Remember the Bible says:

Passage Ephesians 5:31
31For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

With this being said, how do you handle these situations? How do you choose?

Hold On to Your Love

Ok for a lot of us our relationships seem to grow stale over time. Too many let this be the reason to go out and cheat or to get a divorce. My opinion is to go back to when you first started dating. What first attracted you to your mate? What did he or she do that got you feeling all warm and fuzzy inside? (I know you men may not admit to feeling warm and fuzzy but you get the point)

Well the problem seems to be that we get so bogged down by the day to day hustle and bustle that we forget to take time out for one another. That helps to cause the feelings of being unappreciated and unwanted. We have to remember there were special things we did in the beginning to let our partner know we wanted them and now is not the time to let those things fall to the waist side.

Walks in the park, candle lit dinner at home (gas is too high these days 🙂 ) rub his/her feet, run some bath water or take a shower together, write little love notes, just any little thing to let them know they are loved and appreciated. Have the house clean, if it’s hasn’t been lately. Just whatever it takes to rock your partners boat and the key is not to stay in YOUR comfort zone. You have to step outside yourself, outside your norm so that they know: “BABY I LOVE AND APPRECIATE YOU”. Keep the sparks bright….it doesn’t have to be every night but at the least once a month people. This is your life we’re talking about!

Parenting…

From the time we give birth to our precious little babies until the time they move out of our houses at what point do we cut the cord and let them make their own mistakes without feeling they wronged us with their decision? We do our best to raise our children with good morals and values but as soon as they make a wrong decision we personalize it. Parents, especially mothers, I know we love our children to death and only want the best for them and want them to not have to go through trials we’ve warned them about but come on….Life is going to happen and at some point they have to walk on their own and we are no longer the director of their lives but we are simply the net in their show. We don’t tell them what to do anymore once they’ve reached somewhere around age 16+. At that point we give advice and hope they draw on what we’ve taught them and make the right decision and if not we should be there to support them and help them get back on track. Not all of us learn from what we are told or see happen to others. Some have to go out and try it for themselves because they think they can defy the odds. We sometimes wish we could keep them as our little precious babies and cuddle them forever and keep them from harm but that’s not life. As the bible tells us if you raise your child up in the way they should go, if they stray they will return. Have faith!

Trials & Tribulation…It’s your choice.

Good Morning to you all,
I was so hesitant on putting this out, and I was wondering if I should reword a few things because I didn’t know how people would perceive it. But I’ll just write as it’s given to me. I woke up this morning with a lot on my mind and had been dealing with some deep issues in my life…I lost my mom December 23rd, just 2 days before Christmas of 2000, right after I had my third daughter. She was diagnosed with breast cancer in June of that same year and it spread to other organs,skin, bones, and finally her brain. Here’s a woman who was the sweetest woman you could ever meet. she was a nurse and she would do anything for anyone. I couldn’t understand for the life of me why God would take my mother, and at such a young age, she was only 46. I felt that that was the hardest thing I’d ever been or would go through but that was just the beginning….in the following years I’ve experienced some great things and lost some as well. I’m not saying all this to let everyone know my business or for pity’s sake but God helped me to realize first that I’m not the only one who has gone through or will go through some difficult times. That happiness is truly based upon our decision to be happy. Let me explain what I mean…..every day that we live there will be obstacles and trials. There will always be someone who doesn’t like us, someone will always lie and sad to say we may even face the loss of a loved one at some point. The point is there will always be SOMETHING. How we deal with it is whats important. Now, God is very much a reality in my life so if this goes beyond your beliefs or whatever you can choose not to read any further, that’s fine by me but to you who have chosen to stick around I’ve learned that we decide whether or not if we’re going to have a good or bad day. That’s not to say nothing bad will happen. Knowing that depression, stress, anger, unforgiveness, envy, jealousy, hatred, etc..is not of God but that he wants us to have life, and life more abundantly. Knowing that no matter what God allowed it and he has a plan and a purpose for our lives. Everything we’ve gone through and will go through was ordered by God to A) bring us closer to him B) mold us into what/who he wants us to be. Romans 5:3-5 says that suffering produces perseverance , perseverance character, and character hope. I’m sure most of us have heard that song by Marvin Sapp.”Never Would Have Made It”, well there’s apart where he states that he’s stronger, wiser, that he’s much better. Trials come to make us better people. We learn to have patience, and compassion for other people and if you’ve ever been forgiven by God so many times, like I have…you learn to forgive other people as well. I know some may say “well who does she think she is…and all I have to say to that is…I’m just a nobody, trying to tell every and anybody who will listen, about somebody, who can save anybody. I’m just a broken vessel that is willing to share how good God is too me. How he’s my best friend, how he dries my tears, how he loves me no matter what I’ve done or will do. He has never left me, and He has never failed me. God will do the same for you. Thanks for taking the time to read this. Make a decision to make today a better day no matter what.
God bless

PMS

Why do some men seem to think that the symptoms of PMS are made up? Why on earth would we make up being bloated, irritable, feeling ugly and uncomfortable? There are a list of changes we go through at this time and none of them are positive. Are men just that out of touch or are they really that naive about women and their bodies. If it’s the later I suggest you go read a book or two because how can you attempt to “love” us right if you don’t know about us???