Archive | March 2009

Before & After Marriage

Are you thinking about getting married but you want to make sure you’re prepared? Married people find themselves in all sorts of situations with their spouses and you begin to wonder how do we fix this? Well as with anything in life that you want to excel in you must do research. As with all things I believe the first place we need to look is up. God has given us all the answers we need…. Open the BIBLE!!!

Here are a few passages to get you started:

Ephesians 5:21-33 (New Living Translation)
Spirit-Guided Relationships: Wives and Husbands

21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. 25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.[a] 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30 And we are members of his body. 31 As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”[b] 32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33 So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

1 Peter 3:1-7 (New Living Translation)

1 In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over 2 by observing your pure and reverent lives.
3 Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. 5 This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They trusted God and accepted the authority of their husbands. 6 For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do.

7 In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.

Proverbs 31:10-31 (New Living Translation)

A Wife of Noble Character
10 [a]Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.

11 Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.

12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

13 She finds wool and flax and busily spins it.

14 She is like a merchant’s ship, bringing her food from afar.

15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.
16 She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard.

17 She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.

18 She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night.

19 Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber.

20 She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy.

21 She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm[b] clothes.

22 She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.

23 Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other civic leaders.

24 She makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.

26 When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.

27 She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.

28 Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her:
29 “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!”

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.

31 Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.

The Duties of a Christian Wife….The Christian Wife by Betty Miller on

Remember it takes two working together. Man’s logic and ideas coupled with a woman’s sensitivity should mix together to help one another in making decisions.

No matter what anyone says or does to the other if you put your desire into pleasing God He will work out all the rest for you. He will work on all that ails you including the problems with your spouse, just make sure you don’t put your hands in it and you trust Him completely.

It’s not easy. Desires of the flesh and your emotions will be used by the devil to tempt you. Even if you give in once or more keep fighting, don’t give up!!! Practice makes perfect and if you truly desire to do it God will help you achieve it!

Happy Marriaging!!!! (yep I made that word up)

Feeling Hopeless???

Confused, alone, and hopeless.… Are those your feelings and you don’t want to feel that way any longer? You look around for something to grab hold of to give you just a glimmer of hope but all you find are more things to depress you even further.

Bills are due and you’re broke, you or your spouse have lost your job, kids are screaming and/or rebelling, you’ve lost a loved one, you’re divorced or going through a divorce, your car is broke down or on it’s last leg. You feel like you’re sinking fast and you just need a life saver.

JESUS….He crosses your mind but you get scared and apprehensive to call on Him because you feel you have to give up everything to get His help.

Well I’m here to tell you all you have to is believe on Him. Matthew 17:20 (NLT) 20 “You don’t have enough faith,” Jesus told them. “I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.[a]” What do you have to lose if you already feel so low? I assure you that everything we need and desire is in the presence of God. If we draw near to Him He will draw near to us. James 4:8 (NLT) 8 Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world.
It’s time to stop letting sin and indecision get in the way of your happiness. It’s time to stop half stepping and strengthen your relationship with our Father. He’s waiting!!!!

Fornication & Adultry

There are some but few women who complain of their husband holding out when it comes to the bedroom so this one is mostly for the husbands but women please read, understand and take the necessary steps to protect your marriage.

When you withhold intimacy from your spouse you open the door for Satan to cause temptation. God warns us of this and gives us direction:

1 Corinthians 7: 1-5 (New Living Translation)
1 Now regarding the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to live a celibate life.[a] 2 But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.

3 The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. 4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.

5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

For the unmarried (fornicators):

1 Corinthians 7: 8-9 (New Living Translation)
8 So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. 9 But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.

The Blindfold

His father takes him into the forest, blindfolds him and leaves him alone. He is required to sit on a stump the whole night and not remove the blindfold until the rays of the morning sun shine through it. He cannot cry out for help to anyone.

Once he survives the night, he is a man. He cannot tell the other boys of this experience, because each lad must come into manhood on his own. The boy is naturally terrified. He can hear all kinds of noises. Wild beasts must surely be all around him.

Maybe even some human might do him harm. The wind blew the grass and earth, and shook his stump, but he sat there, never removing the blindfold. It would be the only way he could become a man. Finally, after a horrific night, the sun appeared and he removed his blindfold. It was then that he discovered his father sitting on the stump next to him. He had been at watch the entire night, protecting his son from harm.

We, too, are never alone. Even when we don’t know it, our Heavenly Father is watching over us, sitting on the stump beside us. When trouble comes, all we have to do is reach out to Him.

Why God allows pain and suffering…

A man went to a barbershop to have his hair cut and his beard trimmed. As the barber began to work, they began to have a good conversation.
They talked about so many things and various subjects. When they eventually touched on the subject of God, the barber said:

“I don’t believe that God exists.”

“Why do you say that?” asked the customer.

“Well, you just have to go out in the street to realize that God doesn’t exist. Tell me, if God exists, would there be so many sick people?
Would there be abandoned children? If God existed, there would be neither suffering nor pain.
I can’t imagine a loving God who would allow all of these things.”

The customer thought for a moment, but didn’t respond because he didn’t want to start an argument. The barber finished his job and the customer left the shop.

Just after he left the barbershop, he saw a man in the street with long, stringy, dirty hair and an untrimmed beard. He looked dirty and unkempt. The customer turned back and entered the barber shop again and he said to the barber:

“You know what? Barbers do not exist.”

“How can you say that?” asked the surprised barber.

“I am here, and I am a barber. And I just worked on you!”

“No!” the customer exclaimed. “Barbers don’t exist because if they did, there would be no people with dirty long hair and untrimmed beards, like that man outside.”

“Ah, but barbers DO exist! That’s what happens when people do not come to me.”

“Exactly!” affirmed the customer. “That’s the point! God, too, DOES exist! That’s what happens when people do not go to Him and don’t look to Him for help. That’s why there’s so much pain and suffering in the world.”

Matthew 11:28 New Living Translation (NLT)
Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.


While a man was polishing his new car, his 4yr old son picked up a stone and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child’s hand and hit it many times, not realizing he was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures. When the child saw his father…..with painful eyes he asked ‘Dad when will my fingers grow back?’

The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times. Devastated by his own actions…… sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches, the child had written ‘LOVE YOU DAD’.

The next day that man committed suicide. . .

Anger and Love have no limits.

Choose the latter to have a beautiful and lovely life….

Things are to be used and people are to be loved.

But the problem in today’s world is that,

People are Used and Things are Loved…

Aurthor Unknown

When God Says, "No"

Written By Cindy Beall
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Because He does, you know.

Garth Brooks sings a song called Unanswered Prayers. Even though I know every word to this song, I have always been bothered by the title. And, if can be honest, I’m also bothered when people say “God didn’t answer my prayer.”


Just because we don’t get the answer we want doesn’t mean He hasn’t answered. Why do we think that answers always have to be in the affirmative? And better yet, what if His answer is “to wait?”

There was a particular guy I dated in college before my husband entered my world. He was a decent guy but definitely had his flaws. I prayed that he’d be my husband one day. And when he broke my heart, I was sad that God didn’t answer my prayer.

Later I realized that God had indeed answered it.
He just simply said no.

I can’t imagine going through life on this earth with anyone other than my husband.
I’m thankful for NOs. It means that God has something better for me.

God gives His best to those who leave the choice to Him.