Taking the time to pray with your partner for at least five minutes a day can increase intimacy, trust and respect in your relationship. It allows God to work with you to build and strengthen your covenant and protects it. It also gives you more to talk about when you are on the same spiritual wavelength.
God wants to help the two of you build a marital foundation that is lasting and unshakable and with Him in the middle. “a threefold cord is not quickly broken ” Ecclesiastes 4:12 (New King James Version) Our personal lives as well as married lives benefit from a living relationship with Christ through the Holy Spirit. Therefore, the more you pray, the more power will come to you. Find a mutual time to establishing your routine of praying. If you’re apart there is nothing wrong with praying on the phone.
Prayers don’t need to be long-winded or flowery. Prayer is simply talking with God. If you each speak for one or two minutes, that’s just fine or maybe in the beginning only one of you will speak. As you develop your own style and patterns, you may find yourself extending the experience. You will become more comfortable and both of you will want to state your concerns and requests. Praying is like exercise…the more you do it, the more natural it becomes and you can use everyday language because God does not require thees and thous. It’s your heart, not your tongue that He wants to hear from.
You should ask God to show you where your problem areas are, freely confessing those problems you perceive but don’t make this a time for bringing up your partner’s shortcomings. Thank God for your spouse and ask Him to show you ways in which you can love and support each other more. As you pray together, you will become more united in your thoughts and desires. Focusing on us. He wants to free you from the shackles of resentfulness, insecurity, mistrust, doubt, guilt, shame, fear, uncertainty. Don’t own it anymore. Give it all to Him. Let God carry your baggage.