Archive | July 2010

Solitude vs Loneliness

There is a world of difference between solitude and loneliness, though the two terms are often used interchangeably.

From the outside, solitude and loneliness look a lot alike. Both are characterized by solitariness. But all resemblance ends at the surface.

Loneliness is a negative state, marked by a sense of isolation. One feels that something is missing. It is possible to be with people and still feel lonely—perhaps the most bitter form of loneliness.

Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely. It is a positive and constructive state of engagement with oneself. Solitude is desirable, a state of being alone where you provide yourself wonderful and sufficient company.

Solitude is a time that can be used for reflection, inner searching or growth or enjoyment of some kind. Deep reading requires solitude, so does experiencing the beauty of nature. Thinking and creativity usually do too.

Solitude suggests peacefulness stemming from a state of inner richness. It is a means of enjoying the quiet and whatever it brings that is satisfying and from which we draw sustenance. It is something we cultivate. Solitude is refreshing; an opportunity to renew ourselves. In other words, it replenishes us.

Loneliness is harsh, punishment, a deficiency state, a state of discontent marked by a sense of estrangement, an awareness of excess aloneness.

*Solitude is something you choose. Loneliness is imposed on you by others.

We all need periods of solitude, although temperamentally we probably differ in the amount of solitude we need. Some solitude is essential; It gives us time to explore and know ourselves. It is the necessary counterpoint to intimacy, what allows us to have a self worthy of sharing. Solitude gives us a chance to regain perspective. It renews us for the challenges of life. It allows us to get (back) into the position of driving our own lives, rather than having them run by schedules and demands from without.

*Solitude restores body and mind. Loneliness depletes them.

It’s an open and shut case!

Remember when the older/wiser generation taught their children, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”?  It is amazing how people like to laugh; criticize; judge and hurt people, just so they can get attention. It is amazing how people who have made mistakes (all of us); made wrong choices; done some things that we were both ashamed and embarrassed about, can talk about someone else who is in the same situation. If we examined ourselves, before laughing at someone else’s expense, perhaps we would shut our mouths and open our hearts.
Do you wonder how God feels after He delivers us from some pain and mistakes; forgives us for some major foul ups and wipes us clean from some filthy habits; then we go and make fun of someone else who is struggling; lost; bound and hurting? There is no God, or love, in people’s feeble attempt at getting attention, (negative attention). Those who know God, should know better. Perhaps we should shut our mouths and open our hearts!
So the next time we decide that we would like to use our mouths for garbage; for hurting; for slandering; for tearing down someone else; let’s examine ourselves, to see if we are in the faith. Let’s examine ourselves, and our motive for saying something mean and talking about one of God’s creation. Perhaps we should shut our mouths and open our hearts.

“With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brother, this should not be.” James 3:9-10 NIV
Jesus said to the men who wished to stone the woman who had been caught in adultery, “…If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.” (John 8:7) And they all left, one by one. Why? They had all sinned; made mistakes; been in trouble; been through pain…. Just like us.
Should we throw a stone at someone else or should we shut our mouths and open our hearts? Yes, it’s an open and shut case!


Love somebody today who doesn’t love you; doesn’t care about you; won’t repay you, can’t repay you and doesn’t want to repay you…then you will be treating them the way God treated you…

A Bondservant of Christ
Rev Toni-Brooke Brown, Pastor
God’s Storehouse, 18301 John R, Detroit MI 48203

God Knows What He Is Doing!

It’s a wonderful day to be a child of God.  
When was the last test you faced?  A test that dropped you to your knees.  A test that caused tears to run down your face.  A test that forced you to do a self-evaluation.  When was the last time you experienced a divine encounter with the Lord?  The time when danger surrounded you and the Lord intervened just in time.  The time when it appeared impossible but the Lord made a way for you.  When was the last time you walked the floors worrying about bill payments, marital problems or ministerial decisions?  The time when worry robbed you of your sleep, but the Lord reminded you again that He was a faithful God.  The time when divorce consumed your thoughts but God stepped in and changed your heart and thoughts.  The time when you felt like walking away from ministry but the Lord reminded you that He was the one who called you.  Do you recall these experiences?
Today, I have been commissioned to come and minister to you.  Do you ever think back over your life?  The trials and tribulations God brought you through.  The unwise and unprayerful decisions God protected you from.  The traps and snares God exposed for you.  Isn’t it amazing how the Lord continues to watch your back when friends promise they will?  Isn’t it amazing how we continue to doubt God’s work in our lives because it feels uncomfortable?  My friend, God Knows What He Is Doing!  There are no mistakes in the Lord.  Your life was planned and purposed before your parents knew each other.  The Bible declares in Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected endGod has walked out each of your steps.  Even when you made wrong turns, God used them for the good (Romans 8:28)God Knows What He Is Doing!  He is aware of all the unbelievers surrounding you.  He knows many do not believe it can be done.  Do you?
My brother, my sister, do you still believe God knows what He is doing in your life?  Do you still trust Him with your life?  The Bible declares in Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.  God Knows What He Is Doing!  
He has not lost control of the plans He created for your life.  Beloved, it is time for you to fully stand on the Lord’s Word.  Wavering back and forth makes you indecisive (James 1:6).  Delayed obedience still makes you disobedient (Isaiah 1:19).  When was the last time you said, “Yes Lord I will!”  The last time you committed your will to His Will.  God Knows What He Is Doing!  Your current pain, burdens, turmoil or fears are not hidden from the Lord.  He knows what He is doing in you, so allow Him the chance to bring it to pass.  
Prayer for Today: Father, I know You know what is best for me and my life.  Forgive me when I doubted.  Have Your own way, I know You know what You are doing.  In Jesus’ name … Amen!
Scripture Reading for Today: Psalms 118:8
May God Bless you at Your point of need!
Minister Darrick D. McGhee

Something YOU Decide!!

A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with his hair fashionably combed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.

His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, he smiled sweetly when told his room was ready.

As he maneuvered his walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of his tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on his window.

I love it,’ he stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

Mr. Jones, you haven’t seen the room; just wait..’

‘That doesn’t have anything to do with it,’ he replied.

Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time.

Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged .. it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it.

‘It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice;
I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful  for the ones that do.
Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away.. Just for this time in my life..

Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw from what you’ve put in.

So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories!

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred.

2. Free your mind from worries.

3. Live simply.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less.