Tag Archive | Forgiveness

CONFRONT TO CONNECT

Wisdom HuntersFaithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.Proverbs 27:6 (NKJ)

Confrontation means there has been a disconnection. Something has severed trust. It may be relational, emotional, or financial. Maybe you feel you have lost someone’s love and respect. Whatever the reason for the disconnection, confrontation needs to seek a reconnection. This is what a caring, faithful friend does. They seek to reconnect where there has been a disconnect. Your salvation in Jesus brought you into relational wholeness with heaven so you could model the same on earth. Scripture teaches, “All this is from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation” (2 Corinthians5:18).

However, if ignored, delayed confrontation deteriorates into disconnection. It dilutes understanding, trust, and intimacy. This is why wise leaders keep short accounts and speak freely and early about their concerns. If a leader ignores his or her obvious feelings of frustration, they will naturally distance themselves from the team and the organization. But if they confront early on, in a spirit of respect and understanding, they stay engaged with the enterprise and the individuals, and therefore avoid creating a culture of control and distrust.

This is true in marriage. A wife may confront her husband when she does not feel loved. This is a natural response when she feels distant from her spouse. Depending on the context of the confrontation, the husband may respond positively (if he is smart!) or he may push back defensively if he senses a combative or controlling spirit. It is normal and healthy to desire and seek out relational connection. This is how God has wired people. Just make sure you set yourself up for a successful connection and not an aborted one.

Your husband is much more receptive to receiving your emotional advances when done in a spirit of respect. Use questions like, “Sweetheart, can we sit down sometime today to discuss the children’s schedule for the upcoming week?” This gives him time to process and prepare. If he feels pounced upon or backed into a corner, he will react defensively. In this situation, healthy confrontation gives a couple the organizational connections they need to be more effective in managing their family responsibilities.

Caring confrontation creates a culture of teamwork and trust. A connected culture creates communication channels that build great organizations. Sadly though, a disconnected leader encourages disconnected individuals who then feed disconnected departments that facilitate disconnected divisions that ultimately lead to a disconnected and dysfunctional organization. So, most importantly, start by connecting with Christ. Vertical relational reconnection facilitates horizontal relational reconnection. Sin subtly or not so subtly severs relationships, but confession leads to connection. David, a most effective leader, said it well: “Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, ‘I will confess my transgressions to the LORD’”— and you forgave the guilt of my sin”(Psalm 32:5). Therefore, make your motives and methods of confrontation for the purpose of reconnection. Friends who care confront to connect.

Taken from the March 16th reading in Boyd’s 365-day devotional book, “Seeking Daily the Heart of God vol. 1” … http://bit.ly/Tv6y9a

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ASK PERMISSION

Wisdom Hunters
“But Daniel resolved not to defile himself with the royal food and wine, and he asked the chief official for permission not to defile himself this way.” Daniel 1:8

Some do what they want now and later ask for forgiveness. Those who work the system to their advantage miss seeing God work out His will in time. Daniel resolved to do the right thing, but he submitted to the lines of authority in his life. A wise reminder: we show respect to a boss, parent, teacher or civic official by seeking permission and not dismissing. Our submissive attitude is an opportunity for the Lord to work in the hearts of those who may not know Jesus.

Whose blessing do you need before you move forward with your idea or decision? How will they feel knowing you took the time to include them in the process? Faith is a function of being comfortable in circumstances that are out of your control. By letting go of having to get something now, you are able to watch the Lord provide something even better later. Moreover, your quiet and compliant spirit is a channel for the Holy Spirit to draw others to Himself.

Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. Psalm 37:7

Perhaps your parents have not given you permission to marry at this time, if so, be patient and trust the Lord will change their heart or yours in His timing. Maybe you have a much better way to move forward with a project at work, but your boss is not convinced it is legitimate. Pray and submit to the conventional, but trust God will use your creative solutions as a seed that grows into future changes. The Holy Spirit can convert people and circumstances as you wait on Him!

Above all, make sure your Heavenly Father has signed off on your actions, before you barrel ahead with premature initiatives. Better to receive peace through patient prayer, instead of pain from impatient prayerlessness. Ask the Holy Spirit for permission before you proceed. Silence means wait, not now; no means I have something better in store for you and yes means move forward by faith. Thus, ask for permission now, so you won’t have to ask for forgiveness later.

Therefore, it is necessary to submit to the authorities, not only because of possible punishment but also as a matter of conscience. Romans 13:5

Prayer: Heavenly Father, give me courage to ask permission and faith to trust You with the answer.

Related Readings: Nehemiah 2:1-6; Proverbs 3:6; Colossians 1:6; Hebrews 13:17; 1 Peter 2:13 

Help Me Get Up

Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Gal 6:1 NIV

When a shark is injured in the wild their friends may turn and devour them. This is the way that sharks behave when there is blood in the water. Often as Christians when one of us falls, the pack turns on them and starts ripping them to shreds by gossip.

Face it, we have all fallen short in the sin area, and it only takes one sin to be guilty of the whole law. Without the forgiveness provided through the Lord Jesus we are all lost. Most of the time people do not need you to tell them that they have fallen, they already know that better than you. They need you to help them back up.

If you know someone today that has fallen, be kind. If the Lord has already forgiven them, who are we to point at their past. Gently encourage them, and help them get up.

HELP…..I can’t see!

Why is everyone else so messed up!  Why can’t they get it together? Why can’t they live right, and love right; speak right and act right? Why can’t they see how they are falling apart and falling short? Why?

We are so quick to see the faults in others, which is just a distraction from the enemy to keep us from seeing the faults in ourselves. If we do not take time to examine ourselves and deal with our own shortcomings and sin, we will be sure to take a great fall! The Word says to ‘examine yourselves.’

Just for today ask God, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties; And see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” Psalm 139:23-24

Use this day to take your eyes off of everyone else, and put them on yourself! You may find that it is not glasses that you need, but only to take the big plank out of your eye! (I’m so busy looking at you, I can’t see myself).

“Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me remove the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the plank that is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck that is in your brother’s eye.”  Luke 6:42 NKJV

“Judge not and you shall not be judged. Condemn not and you shall not be condemned, Forgive and you shall be forgiven.” Luke 6:37

Love somebody today who doesn’t love you; doesn’t care about you; won’t repay you, can’t repay you and doesn’t want to repay you…then you will be treating them the way God treated you…

A Bondservant of Christ,  Rev Toni-Brooke Brown, Pastor
God’s Storehouse
18301 John R, Detroit MI 48203
313 867-1234
www.Gods-Storehouse.org  / Twitter.com/revtonibrown

Forgiveness and Gods Unconditional Love

In today’s society I think we would all agree that the statistics for divorce is increasing at an alarming rate. But would you also agree that if we truly understood what it means to have the unconditional love of God those rates would drop tremendously? Not only do we put limitations on our love, but we are unwilling to forgive one another for ANY/ALL wrong doings.

 

Some may say that, “well if he/she did this or that I just couldn’t forgive them.” Well that’s not showing the unconditional love and forgiveness that God intends for us to have. The bible tells us to forgive so that we may be forgiven. (Luke 17:4) states that no matter how many times a person wrongs us , if they ask for forgiveness we ought to forgive.

 

Now I know that this is easier said than done in most cases, especially if infidelity is involved. But if that is the case , there is nothing too hard for God (Luke 18:27) …but with God all things are made possible. Forgiveness is not just for the other person, it is to ease our troubled mind and give us peace and the strength to move on from the hurt. You may not fully understand why things happened but there is a purpose to everything you may experience in this life. All things work together for the good of them that love the Lord and are called to his purpose. (Romans 8:28) There is a reason for each trial and storm and God knew you could handle it.

Question of the day: If God is for marriage, and it being the example of his love for the church, when then is adultry permissible grounds for divorce?